Know the real you! Keys to living a more filter free life.
Are filters always necessary? Are they always made to shield you or rather obscure the true you that you want to radiate to others?
It’s sad that we are living in a world where we seek for other’s validation. But, do we really need it? With technology, the power of social media has overcome the majority of us. However, it’s all a lie. What we see online isn’t the whole truth, but rather how we want others to see us.
Do these make us happy? Probably yes, but not in the long run. These filters hide the real us. These bandage the wounds we have but no, these don’t heal us. It took me a long time to realize this too. But when it hit, it hit hard and I cried hard. To achieve real happiness, we’ve got to know our real selves.
How to live a more filter free life? Here are some of the keys:
- Don’t give in to peer pressure
The inspiration behind this post was a question that was raised at me by a follower regarding peer pressure. Yes, peer pressure will always exist, not only when you’re a teenager. It’s there even when you’re already in your 20’s, or even 30’s. I guess it’s part of growing up and it’s a roadblock while you’re getting to know yourself. Yes, it’s a roadblock in life. You can’t be this version of yourself whenever you’re with this certain group then change 180° when you’re with that other group. It would actually take time before you can identify this but when you do, know how to value yourself and don’t be scared to show the real you. Remember, real friends accept you for who you are.
- Don’t be scared to fail
The fear of failure would definitely hold you back. People recognizing you as someone incompetent is something that would scare you. I have this fear of failure too. But think about it, failure is a natural process that everyone goes through. You will not learn without failing. Set your goals and ease your worries. If you fail, you can try again. If it doesn’t work, then at least, you learned from it. Value the experience too.
- Embrace your success
Another one is the fear of success. Success could mean higher expectations and more responsibility on your shoulders. Reflect on how you achieved this success but don’t let this get into you. If you worked hard for it, then you deserve to succeed. Though, this is a motivation for you to strive even harder.
- Struggling to please others is out of the golden role
This is something I can totally relate to. I used to have something about how others view me as, so I always try to please them. I wanted them to like me. I used to always say yes to all of their requests, if that would make them happy, but I ended up hurt, bigtime! It only gave me a lot of stress. It was then when I awakened to the fact that it was totally fine to say no, especially if it was against my values. Also, I wouldn’t want to end up anymore with a premise to another problem. You can’t make others happy, if you can’t be happy yourself first. Say no, it’s ok.
- Learn to appreciate yourself more
I used to always think that I wasn’t enough. Everytime I looked at my photos, I could see every single flaw I had, and even point them out one by one. I can still vividly remember, years ago, the first time I learned how to apply all those filters on my photos. Luckily, I never learned to photoshop and up to now, I don’t know how to, or else I would’ve abused that skill and that application. It became self destructive as I started to go on crash diets when I thought I gained a little bit of weight. It has gone to the point that I starved myself. It took me years and years before I learned to appreciate myself and to truly love myself. This was probably one of the hardest lessons I have ever gotten to learn. Positive self talk helps a lot too. Try getting rid of all those negative vocabulary. Everything starts with self acceptance and positivity within your self. Remember, you’re beautiful just the way you are.
Filters on a photo may be bright and pleasant conveniences, but needlessly mask and oversaturate your already perfect, though challenging, world. Remember that no filter can be as bright as the colours of your soul in its true form.
Be pretty, be happy, be you! H~