Listed the things I wish I knew in my 20’s (a birthday special)!
Growing up, I always considered myself lucky and privileged. I was surrounded with people who loves me dearly, by those who would teach me what was right and wrong, and those who would protect me from any harm. Though these were done from the background, I was always head on with the challenges that was thrown at me.
Like how life truly is, not everything goes well or as planned, there were shortcomings, probably because these happened at the wrong time, but I learned a lot of things. I was taught by these events to be stronger and how to stand my ground. I am not the type to regret as I have always instilled in my mind that everything happens for a reason, you may or may not be aware of.
Listed 10 things I wish I knew in my 20’s as a reflection of the eventful things that happened to me, and a little reminder for anyone who reads this.
1. Everything is going to be ok.
I’m a huge worrier that I tend to focus so much in the end results. I always tend to forget to not just focus on what’s on the future, ignoring what’s in front of me. Always be reminded that everything will be ok, most especially at the right time.
2. Trust your gut, above it all, trust yourself.
We all have had that moment when we told ourselves, ‘I knew it’. This is why I am now more cautious on the things I choose and decide on. Most importantly, not influenced by what others think of what my decision should be. Still, weighing on the pros and cons of my then choice.
3. Look after yourself.
Invest in yourself. Your health and well being is as important as anything else. Sleep in! This is very important, I have always been a morning person but it doesn’t mean that I don’t sleep late. This may be the reason why I stopped growing at 159 cm. (Lol!) Eat healthy and do a bit of exercise too.
4. Learn to slow down.
Going the extra mile is admirable but sometimes, learning to slow down is as crucial too. Pushing yourself to do more is praiseworthy but know your limits. Slowing down also meant reflecting on your priorities and this may be of great help for you to do even better.
5. You are never too old.
You are never too old to try new or even change your careers. We all have great potentials, embrace it! Playing safe might just make you regret this when it’s actually too late or when you have lost the opportunity. Go for it!
6. Nobody’s opinion is more important than your own.
I myself, is a self confessed people pleaser but have completely stopped a few years back. Well, yes, it’s a nice feeling to be able to please the people that surrounds you but does it have a negative effect on you? Then it’s not worthy it, if it does. No matter how superior that person who gave an opinion, it’s still an opinion. You are entitled to your own and if it doesn’t do you any good, then it’s not relevant. Cultivate self-trust.
7. It’s ok to ask for help.
Growing up as the eldest, I learned to be independent but it has gone to the point when I actually refused help or not voicing out the need for one. Nobody knows everything. Asking for help is not a weakness either. Ask for the person who knows what you need or who has what you want. Communication is key too.
8. Don’t carry other people’s baggages. Don’t try to change others either.
I have experienced having sleepless nights, thinking about other people’s problems and trying to solve them. No, I should’ve known that I don’t have the power to do that. You can support them along the way but they know better what works for them, allow them to do it. Also, meet others in the middle, or much better, along the way. Accept and love them for who they are. Changing them is another power you don’t possess.
9. It’s never going to be perfect. Forgive yourself.
Everyone screws up, forgive yourself for them. Treat them as learning points. Don’t be too hard on yourselves, learn to forgive. Nothing is going to be perfect. It doesn’t mean that they look like they’re living the life on Instagram, that’s the entirety of everything. Learn to be happy with what you have and where you are. Not everything that makes you happy, completes you.
10. Nothing lasts forever. Be grateful, for the good and the bad, or even the worse.
When you’re in your 20’s everything feels like they’ll last until eternity, or you want them to stay like it until forever. Wrong, nothing lasts long. Savor the good moments until it lasts and remember them as amazing experiences. When something is not going your way, or if you’re depressed, know that this will not last. Something will turn this the other way around, for the better. Being grateful is a great way to acceptance. Live gracefully and gratefully.
Hope these can be of help to you or just be little reminders for you to live happier.
Be pretty, be happy, be you! H~